Steven Hickman
on Self-Compassion for Skeptics

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Show Notes:
In this episode, Dr. Steven Hickman shares about his new book, Self-Compassion for Dummies, and describes his love of teaching self-compassion to skeptics and beginners. He explains what mindful self-compassion (MSC) is, and how it can work as an antidote to our fight, flight, and freeze responses. He also describes the more fierce side of self-compassion, exploring what makes self-compassion a courageous act and how it helps us navigate difficult emotions. Listen in for Dr. Hickman’s insight on the danger in trying to eliminate suffering, learning to see your inner critic in a new way, and motivating yourself through self-compassion.
Dr. Steven Hickman is the Executive Director of the non-profit Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher and trainer, and a Clinical Psychologist by training. He is also a Retired Associate Clinical Professor in the University of California at San Diego School of Medicine, as well as the Founding Director of the UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness. Along with colleague Michelle Becker, he co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher Training program (both in-person and live online versions) and have directly participated in the training of over 1000 MSC teachers around the world. He has taught the MSC program many times around the globe and is also a Certified teacher and trainer of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR).
Key Takeaways:
- Why Dr. Hickman writes to the skeptic in Self-Compassion for Dummies
- How self-compassion serves as the antidote to our fight, flight or freeze response
- Dr. Hickman’s work around the active or fierce side of self-compassion
- How to work with the inner critic to motivate yourself with self-compassion
- What makes self-compassion a courageous act (especially for men)
- Why self-compassion requires that we repeatedly turn toward distress
- How self-compassion helps us get to the root of what we’re feeling (e.g.: anger as a reaction to vulnerability)
- Dr. Hickman’s advice to people struggling with overwhelming feelings of suffering
- The danger in trying to control/eliminate suffering with self-compassion
Connect with Steve:
Resources:
- Self-Compassion for Dummies by Steven Hickman
- Chris Germer
- Kristin Neff
- Steven Hickman on Noble Mind EP016
- Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
- Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive by Kristin Neff, PhD
- ‘Kindness Matters: A Randomized Controlled Trial of a Mindful Self-Compassion Intervention Improves Depression, Distress, and HbA1c Among Patients with Diabetes’ in Diabetes Care
- Dan Siegel
- Michelle Becker
- Backdraft
Hosts:

Katherine King, PsyD
Katherine King, PsyD is a clinical psychologist and assistant professor of psychology at William James College. She was trained in evidence-based treatments within the Veterans’ Administration and has a private practice specializing in geropsychology. She is also a member of the Boston Shambhala Center Board of Directors, a vajrayana student of Buddhism, and has practiced meditation for over 20 years. Learn more about Kate at www.drkateking.com.

Alex Gokce, MSW
Alex Gokce, MSW has a master’s degree in social work from Salem State University and an undergraduate degree in Comparative Government from Harvard University. He has led psychotherapy groups on topics including mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and mind-body approaches to pain management. He has co-led programs at the Boston Shambhala Center on the topics of trauma and self-compassion. His personal and professional interests center around the individual, societal and intergenerational impacts of trauma, as well as the sociocultural roots of interpersonal harm.
Disclaimer: Please note that the information shared in this podcast is strictly for educational purposes only, and is not intended as psychological treatment or consultation of any kind.