Self-criticism is universal, but we all experience it differently. How does self-criticism show up for you? Where does it come from, and how do you work through it?

In this episode of Noble Mind, hosts Alex and Kate explain where our internalized messages of self-criticism come from, exploring how it can show up up as a running negative commentary in our heads or a general feeling of demoralization. They discuss why it’s useful to identify our patterns of self-criticism, describing how the inner critic can either push us to be perfect and hyper-productive or undermine our willingness to try new things. Listen in for insight on using parts work and mindful self-compassion to acknowledge the negative emotions of self-criticism, engage in the higher thinking necessary to soothe yourself, and choose a path forward.

Key Takeaways 

·       Where our internalized messages of self-criticism come from

·       How self-criticism shows up as a running commentary in our heads OR a general feeling of demoralization

·       How to identify your patterns of self-criticism and what actions trigger it

·       Why it’s helpful to think of self-criticism as a misguided attempt to help us succeed

·       How self-criticism presents as hyper-productivity, perfectionism or guilt

·       How self-criticism undermines our willingness to try new things

·       How to use parts work and CBT to explore both the self-critic and the part of us that’s hurt by self-criticism

·       How to leverage mindful self-compassion tools to engage in higher thinking

·       Why it’s crucial to have a healthy skepticism of self-criticism 

Resources Mentioned 

·       Daniel Ellenberg 

·       Parts Work

·       Mindful Self-Compassion

·       Cognitive Behavioral Therapy